So you think you might like a walk on the wild side. Try this beginner’s guide to six fetishes that might pique your interest.
By Dustin Shrader
Chaps, whips, biting, harnesses, spanking and chains. Fetishes. We all have a kinky side ready to be unleashed. Kink scenarios usually involve a certain power dynamic—a dominant role and a submissive role – but all of them involve releasing the uninhibited beast.
Some scenes have thrilling, almost punishing, power differences between roles that can extend beyond the bedroom. “Subs” or “slaves” may even go as far as to hand over all facets of their daily lives to their “dom” or “masters,” but if you’re new to the ways of kink and aren’t quite ready to be suspended from a ceiling, you may discover your kinky side in these options, from mild to wild.
Roleplay
Roleplaying is a fantastic way for kink virgins to explore before really letting your freak flag fly. Step into the shoes of another persona and break free of the vanilla box to embrace a completely new reality. Roles can encompass other kinks like Puppy play, leather or BDSM, from student/teacher, coach/jock, husband/gardner/poolboy … the sky is the limit.
Foot Fetish
We all have those body parts that turn us on the most. Feet are the most common to pop a tent among men, hetero or homo. But what is it about feet that gets the juices flowing? Some gay fetishists say it’s the sheer masculinity. Size, shape, hair, highness of the arch and softness of the toes all play a part.
After all, feet lend strength to a man’s most powerful muscles—his legs. They’re also a powerful male sensory spot – that’s why you curl your toes during an orgasm. Don’t be squeamish about taking his (or your!) tingly nerves to places they’ve never explored.
Watersports
Let’s get soaking wet. Men engaging in water sports or “urine play” may be aroused by the high levels of wetness when urinating on each other. Watersport play also comes a strong taboo, which can increase the desire further as participants break away from the cultural norm.
Not to mention the Olympian size erection you will maintain with a near-bursting bladder. We’ve all experienced that rager first thing in the morning from needing to pee; you can have it any time of day and experience the ultimate release as well. Drinking more water daily is healthy, and you might even be able to satisfy someone’s latent craving for humiliation. Chug your Dasani and let those golden showers pour.
Puppy Play
No real canines are involved in this scenario, but it can be similarly endearing. The power dynamic here subdued. Simply, pups get treated as you would your own four-legged friend: Shower him with affection, kisses and love, and maybe a few barking orders. Typically a “handler” is the more dominant partner, and the “pup” is subordinate. Walking on all fours, perhaps wagging a butt plug dogtail, and lapping up the handler’s crotch are all in the realm of possibility. Be a good boy, be a good daddy, and do it doggy style.
Leather
Leather culture is the fetish most commonly associated with gay men. “Leathermen” are not solely reserved for BDSM, and the leather itself can be the draw. Pup play, roleplay and other kinks can be great avenues for welcoming those assless chaps, that fitted harness and maybe a collar or two. And you don’t have to have a love of motorcycles to get down, although a Sons of Anarchy biker boy scene does sound kinda hot.
BDSM
Now we have arrived at the bad boy of the fetish world. BDSM pushes boundaries to the point that safety words are a necessity. Generally, there is a dominate and subordinate, and practitioners might choose to include chains, floggers, slings, whips and any number of leather clothes and toys to explore the boundaries and connections between pleasure and pain.
It’s important to note that while misconceptions regarding BDSM abound, its dungeons are safeguarded with responsible, consenting adults. The art is only be truly pleasurable if you take the time to learn all the ins and outs before you’re on your knees, looking at the floor, softly saying, “Yes sir.”